Making Sure All Your Bridesmaids Are Feeling Included

Bridgewater Banquet & Conference Center

Making Your Bridesmaids Feel Included


Dec 2017

There is an old saying out there that everyone woman is well aware of. “Always a bridesmaid, never a bride”. This may be the way some of your bridesmaids feel as they see you and other friends tying the knot before them. Of course not all of them will have this point of view, but why not take a few moments to consider a few things that will help them feel special and included.

Ask them in a way they will remember

Everyone remembers that moment when their spouse of fiance popped the question. If you’re lucky he was creative and asked in a memorable way. The feeling of excitement you were filled with can be shared with your bridesmaids if you too are creative in asking them to stand up with you at your wedding. You don’t have to break the bank or fly off for a fun filled Vegas weekend to ask them. Put together a small gift bag with wedding items and include a card or candy ring with a tag attached saying “Will you be my bridesmaid”. Use your imagination and come up with something unique and original.

Make sure your bridesmaids get acquainted

We all have family and friends from different periods in our lives that we may call upon for our special day. There is a good chance some of those people will have never met. Once you have your wedding party picked out get together for a lunch and maybe a girl’s night out. Give them all plenty of opportunity to get to know one another.

Offer to help with expenses

Weddings are expensive for everyone involved. If one or more of your bridesmaids is struggling financially, offer to discreetly lend a hand. Be it travel expenses or offering to pay for a proton or all of the dress for a friend who is having money issues will show your friend how much they mean to you and how much you want them to be a part of your wedding.

Keep communicating

With all the details that go into planning a wedding things change quickly. Keeping everyone up to speed can be difficult. Small and even large details can slip through the cracks and some of your girls may miss out. Be sure to keep the lines of communication open. Don’t be afraid to ask them or lean on them for help. Communicate to them if you are feeling overwhelmed with the pressures of planning and let them be there for you.

Have fun

This particular group of family and friends may not be able to gather together again in the future or at least not to regularly spend time together. Don’t forget to let your hair down and have some fun with them while you are focused on the planning. Be sure to plan out some fun poses for pictures at the wedding. Capture everyone’s personalities and the bond you all now share together.